I’ve always dreamed of having a blog that showcases my beautiful, perfectly staged home. I so love looking at those stunning pictures with everything perfectly in place. They are so serene, so gorgeous. They inspire me.
But then I look around and laugh.
The thing is, I love that sort of thing. I love decorating, interior design, making things beautiful. It’s just that my house is not the showcase I feel it would need to be in order to pull off something like that.
How do you get a houseful of children {Or their toys. Or laundry. Or whatever else they are dragging around.} out of the camera’s eye long enough to take those stunning pictures?
I can get discouraged. I remember a day when my house was spotless. We even had a maid back then.
That was before children. We don’t have a maid anymore. I think I did the maid thing backwards.
I love to dream and imagine my house with just the right paint color, the coordinating furniture in perfect condition.
I have a beautiful leather sofa. With a flower garden painted on the back of it with a black Sharpie marker. It’s quite striking.
I really don’t see it anymore, but I know everyone else does. It’s actually the first thing you see when you walk in my house. It’s right there after the entryway, into the living room. All its glory staring right at you.
Faith did that when she was about 2. She wanted to make it pretty for me. I never got angry at her for it. I thought it was precious. She drew that for me? Aw. I mean, I was shocked at first, but never upset. But it won’t make the gorgeous photos I see in the blogosphere.
I have a mishmash of things collected from around the world. Our home is warm and inviting, or so I like to think. But we live here. ALL of us. So that doesn’t make for gorgeous interior design photos.
I think my struggle is more about being content than it is with having a perfect home. I find that I can become discontent because I never seem to have time to get to those things. I long for summer break so that I have at least a few hours freed up in my day. Not that those hours aren’t taken by something else. In so many ways we have such beauty and delight. We have been blessed abundantly. Yet, we get bogged down with the stuff, the dust bunnies, just the keeping up with the basics, seldom getting to the Martha Stewart (or whoever is the go-to person for design today…I’ve lost track) in us.
I decided years ago, after many tears and frustrations, that I needed to let the things give a bit in order to properly take care of the more important things in my life: my family. I decided that loving my children, bearing patiently with them, pouring out my life for them was way more important than perfection in my home. I’d rather have them understand the perfection of Christ in the imperfection of life. I want them to know that I value them way above having things just look that way.
I know some people seem to pull it off. I admire them. I don’t really know how things go in their home, if the children feel valued and loved. They seem to, so I don’t have reason to doubt that. These moms must be way more on top of their game than I ever will be.
Yes, we still like it tidy around here. It’s just that we don’t always achieve the “photo ready” standard. Okay, not just always, often. I look at those photos and can’t find a single dust bunny or cobweb. How do they do that? How do they find time to make everything always look so good? Maybe we are only getting a shot at the one room that they poured into for that photo. Maybe just on the other side of the camera is chaos.
But maybe not.
I feel like Mrs. Tittlemouse. You know. From Beatrix Potter’s book. She’s a tidy little mouse who has all these insects popping by unexpectedly leaving little dirty footprints everywhere. She’s constantly cleaning up behind them. She’s adorable.
I feel her pain.
But the creatures making the dirty little footprints in her home are not her beloved children. They are uninvited guests. Surely that makes a difference. Or maybe not. I suppose our hearts should be welcoming of whomever the Lord puts into our homes to minister to, children or strangers. Sometimes we are inconvenienced by people we don’t actually love.
But I suppose that’s another post for another day.
For now, I will continue to move along in my life, ministering to my children {and beloved husband, of course}, enjoying other peoples’ gorgeous decorating blogs. Trying not to envy. But being refreshed by viewing their beautiful photos.
And giggling at my leather sofa graced with the gift from Faith.
I suppose the tidiness will come again one day. Unfortunately, that will most likely come with a house empty of children with dirty feet. I’d rather fight the dust bunnies than think of the days without them.
I linked over at Joyous Notions.
1Ti 5:10 Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.
I don’t see a picture perfect house listed here but I have seen you and your family extend these things that God calls important to me and my family and I have seen your guest book with MANY testimonies from others you have blessed. PS — I never noticed the flower garden on the sofa. I was too busy being overwhelmed by your hospitality!
This post made me smile. Just this morning I was looking at a BH&G photo article and one of the floor lamps looked dusty. I was so excited — because I, too, have always wondered how “they” (the elusive & exclusive) do it.
We always say we decorate in Modern American Child. It’s a good style and works for the mom in me — most of the time.
I do remember the avocado in your kitchen — and that one was my fault!
I enjoy reading your work. Thanks for the motivations!
I’ve never longed for that photo perfect home, but I very often feel weary over just trying to keep up. I glance around the house at those lovely “art drawings” on my walls, or the scratches on my table, or the stuff on the floor just minutes after we’ve cleaned, and I’m tempted to get frustrated, and sometimes do. But then I think ahead 10, 15, 20 years, and imagine life without all these sweet ones underfoot, and then I realize that I will deeply miss these little years. The cuddles, the cute sounds of their tiny voices, their dependence upon me, and the innocent joyfulness they bring everyday.
I also realize that the days I *think* I will have a perfectly neat and tidy home, will be the days of grandchildren. My oldest, married daughter just recently announced her pregnancy! YAY! So, I will probably never see a day of a perfect home. And that’s okay!
Great post!